The Exercise of Power

For many men and women, having dominance and power over another makes them feel horny. Ergo, the bondage play; the feeling of having the power to make someone sit down, shut up, and take it, is for many people a real turn on. Even in non-sex play, such as by being a supervisor or a boss, the 'feel good' feeling remains.

I've learned something about myself.

I'm not one of those people.

Today I had to ban an Earthy Sex forum user. I didn't want to, but after three warnings, including a general forum posting, the person just wasn't getting it. Maybe some people would have considered the infraction minor, and it sort of was, but it was causing a big headache to me and, more importantly, there was a decided feeling coming across that this user was either a 'bot or just didn't care to look at or even try to understand the rules.

So here goes.

This person posted about 200 free porn videos in the Straight section of the forums and scattered several more in all the other forums; except for video sharing which to me, and likely to most poeple, would have been the obvious choice for posting free porn. I mean, duh. I sent out a very polite message to this person in clear English (because all the posts were done in Russian I think) stating that their videos had been moved (I moved all of the videos for this person) to the correct forum and to use that forum from now on for posting videos. Then I did a post in the Straight forum about videos. After all, we want videos on the forums (they're bringing in the viewers!) but in the right place!

He/she/it continued posting videos in the Straight Forum.

I sent a more stern and to the point warning. I even tried to do it in Russian, but the translation kept getting screwed up so I just wrote it very simply.

Woke up this morning to more videos.

Sent infraction points and the reason for it.

Two more videos followed.

Banned user for one month, but he/she/it is still getting the backlink power since I left the videos in the correct forum.

I don't feel powerful or sexy or strong or anything. I just feel kind of ill and tired. Which makes me wonder what kind of sexual being I am and furthermore whether I was just being a bitch about it or whether I have a legitimate grievance?