Porn Sex and Real Sex

We got back from our vacation a few days ago and since we were sleeping at my relatives and didn’t have a lot of carnal relations (plus we finally got married and that had to be consummated), we, er…

Well you get the idea.

Afterwards, likely due to my job as a seeker of adult content and my own shaky confidence, I had to wonder if I had done a decent job of pleasuring my new husband. He of course was thrilled and went straight to sleep, but I was left wondering. Further analysis revealed that part of my insecurities may lie in my job. After all, I see/read/research means of having better sex and this includes porn.

But porn sex is not real sex. It’s not even remotely real sex. I’m sure you all know that intellectually, but it can still smack you in the face when you least expect it (especially if your partner watches porn) and you’re left wondering: are you good enough?

But no one is good enough to be porn sex! Here’s why:

Porn sex is choreographed and the act is done over and over again at different angles. Then the product is airbrushed, photoshopped, and otherwise fixed. (and did you know there are porn stunt doubles for the close shots?)

Porn sex is a good deal…. neater, mostly due to the fact that the finished product has been edited. You won’t have any damp spots, queefing, or anything other than elegantly sweaty limbs. Plus everyone is shaven. Now how many men do you know will shave their bodies? (how many of us want them to?)

Porn sex has a script to follow, usually a bad one, but a script nonetheless. It’s rehearsed and memorized and ad-libbed just like any other script. It also has a director and cameras.

Porn sex is done by professionals who only like each other as coworkers.

Now,while the finished product may be something that is sexy and fulfilling for some people, it’s not real. The whole thing is made up. And so, if you’re in a relationship, the real sex will be far more fulfilling than any stageplay anyway.

A final thought: Do you really want to work as hard on that sex scene in your own bedroom as those porn stars do? Someone shouting ‘CUT!’ and telling cameras to move to the left?

Yeah, I didn’t think so.

Happy sex everyone and talk to you all soon.