High Libido Means Knowing What You Put Into Your Head!

We watch hundreds of hours of television, movies, and internet shows every single month or even week! Many researchers know that all of this television has an impact on how we think, act, and on our health, but did you know that all of that television also has an impact on your sex life? Whether you are watching porn to get revved up, or feeling bad for yourself by watching sexy models, television gets into your head and into your sex drive and either revs it up and into overdrive, or completely depresses it. Even the best porn though will not be a suitable replacement for the real thing. In fact, watching too much porn drives down libido; people are unable to separate fantasy from reality and find reality to be lacking, meaning that they can’t form a meaningful sexual relationship with others. Be warned too that your partner may not take as well to the porn; women especially struggle with their self image when compared to the women on the television. However, men too can compare and find themselves lacking.

A lack of confidence is often a cause for a low libido and sex drive. This is the same for both men and women; if they don’t feel attractive, sexy and beautiful, they are always going to be second guessing their abilities in bed and how their partners view them. This in turns makes people less likely to enjoy themselves and thus sex as a whole becomes less fun and more onerous. Even people who would normally consider themselves to be attractive can find themselves coming of badly compared to the models on television.

Porn and sexy shows are in themselves not a bad thing and the show producers know that sex sells, thus the attractive actors It is up to the viewer to not let it make them feel bad about themselves and ruin their good time in the bedroom. There are a few things to keep in mind and try out if you want to develop a self esteem shell against TV.

Remember that what you’re seeing on the television, internet, and billboards isn’t the real person. It’s a little thing called Photoshop or the equivalent which smooth out imperfections and body lines, and brightens tone. Some people have been so thoroughly altered that you may not recognize them if you pass them in the street! (Give Photoshop a try for yourself and turn yourself into a super model for an ego boost equivalent to what they’re getting done.)

Remember that your partner picked you out for you; personality, smarts, fun time, and appearance all merge together. Men especially don’t notice little imperfections on you; they tend to look at the whole picture instead.

Try something brand new to experiment and get your confidence back up. Use a new toy, try a new position, or even just some lusty dirty talk. Success in something you’ve never done before is both a great confidence booster and fairly easy to do in the bedroom; as long as you aren’t drawing blood or creating bruises, you’ll probably get a good hit.

Take a good look in the mirror and take note of all the great things about you.


Sexy television can be a very good thing. It warms up the engines, gives people new ideas for the bedroom, and some couples even enjoy watching them to foster closeness. However, it can also create a very warped self image leading to decreased libido. When you don’t feel sexy, you don’t want to have sex, no matter how much your partner loves you. In order to keep these shows from bothering you, you have to remember that the people you’re looking at aren’t their real selves, that you are loved, and that sometimes it takes a new trick in bed to feel better! More importantly, remember that when you have sex, you’ll feel good and all those self image worries will go away. Give it a try; a real try, and you’ll see that not only will sexually explicit television have less of an impact on your self image, but you may even come to enjoy it!