Stress and Sex

Ack, it’s hard to have sex when one is stressed out! Women tend to fight with this problem the most; simply because women tend to let it get to them far more than men do. However, stress also affects men, typically seen in premature ejaculation and in erectile dysfunction. In order to have a good sex life even in a harried life, it’s important to learn how to manage your stress effectively. Both men and women can benefit from proper stress management and the sexual performance of both partners will be directly affected by it. You can even coordinate these stress busting techniques with your foreplay in order to combine the two for a better night overall.

• Massage Therapy: Massaging each other with oils or lotions is a great way to bust some stress and start some foreplay action. Use oils that warm on contact and remember that the best oils can go everywhere. Heh….
• Stress busting foods: Some foods are very good at lowering blood pressure and managing stress. These foods include nuts and bananas. And astonishingly enough, they are also good foods for energy and some erotic play… oh those bananas!
• Yoga: Tantric yoga or otherwise, yoga helps you to manage your stress, get some exercise and improve your flexibility. Plus couples’ yoga is a great way to bond and thus be closer and have a better sex life because of it.
• Mini-Vacation: A mini vacation can be anything from a night in a hotel to a weekend away at a bed and breakfast or a slightly longer trip. A mini-vacation can not only get rid of some of the stress of your life, but also spices up your sex life by engaging in the act in a new place. Mini vacations don’t have to be expensive and you really have to think of it in terms of an investment in your relationship
• Chat it Out: Sometimes a great stress buster is just to talk it out and be understanding about it. Men have a hard time talking about what stresses them out because they are often conditioned to repress their feelings while women often have difficulty dealing with their stress because they tell people and can end up getting overrun by other people’s problems or by being told that their problems don’t matter. However, when both partners are understanding of each other’s stress, it can do a lot to relieve the burden and thus make for better sex.
Stress can really trash your sex life, but it’s important to not allow it to run your life completely. Remember that through proper stress management, you can not only take better care of your health, but also enjoy some fun ways to have better sex and a closer partnership overall.